If you were to sit down and create a "to do" list for the next week that included the things you need to do as well as the things you want to do, would spending time with your spouse be anywhere on that list? If you are like many people, your answer would be no. It seems most of us take time or make time for many other facets of our lives, but let our marriage and spending time with our spouse fall to the bottom of our list of priorities. Making your spouse and your relationship a top priority is one of the best ways to rekindle a marriage.
While there is no such thing as a problem free marriage, couples who make the effort to spend time alone with each other on a regular basis tend to have less problems than couples who don't make the effort. We all live busy lives and it is very easy to get so caught up in your job and taking care of your children and your home, that you and your spouse rarely have a conversation that doesn't involve who needs to take which child where or some other detail of daily life.
If you sometimes feel like you have more meaningful conversations with your co-workers than you do with your husband or wife, it may be time for the two of you to schedule some alone time. Line up a babysitter, mark the date on your calendars and go on a date with your spouse.
There may be a movie the two of you have been wanting to see or a restaurant that you have wanted to check out and there is nothing wrong with staying at home for your date. The goal of your date is to spend some time alone together. How the two of you decide to spend the time is up to you and not really important.
Marriage relationships either grow stronger or grow weaker. When you neglect you marriage and don't make time for your spouse, you weaken your relationship. On the other hand, regularly spending time together strengthens your relationship and makes your marriage stronger. While there is no way to totally eliminate problems in a marriage, couples who put each other and their marriage at the top of their priority list have a better relationship and have an easier time dealing with the problems that do arise.