Stop Trying To Be Happy

We all have a strong desire for happiness as a constant in our life. We do our best to avoid negative thoughts and feelings. Instead of learning how to deal with them appropriately, we brush them under the rug. The simple advice to fix this is to stop trying to be happy. Instead, learn to just be happy without trying. That is more easily said than done, so lets cover some strategies you can implement.

First ask yourself this. If you had a magic wand, what would you make your life into? What would you be doing, who would you be with, and where would you be living? The answer to these simple questions can have a profound help in pointing your life in the right direction. Really, what would you be doing? What would you be all about? How would the world around you relate to you?

Most of us never bother to stop and reflect on answers to these questions because we are too busy trying to be happy. We do not actually want to deal with difficult feelings like the realization that our life is not what we want. So we don't reflect. We just try and be happy and avoid any sense of sadness. So, seriously take a moment to reflect on some answers.

Your answers will help you discover your values. Your values are what your heart desires most. Discovering what you value is critical towards being happy because when you act in accordance with your values you are always happy. Knowing your values also helps you to make the most out of difficult situations. For example, you got fired from your job. Now your employed as a councelor at less than your previous pay. You have two options make the most of it, or dwell on it.

If you value being a mentor and coach to others, then you could still find happiness in your new position while you look for a job like the one you had. This is the advantage of  knowing what you value. It allows you to find happiness by acting in accordance with your values.

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